Argh the dating game!
I’ve certainly had my share of ups and downs. Possibly more downs than ups but who’s counting anyway? I’ve had some pretty intense relationships along the way but nothing that’s lasted more than two-and-a-half years and generally with girls who live in far off countries. You kind of make things hard for yourself when you fall in love with a Norwegian who wants to stay in Norway while you desperately want to come back to the white sandy beaches of Australia! And long distance relationships. You can forget them! Absence may make the heart grow fonder but if you can’t reach out and physically touch someone, well, what’s the point?
So, what do I look for in a woman? I suppose I’d be a bold face liar if I said that physical attraction doesn’t count for anything. I’m not out searching for a super model but I do like a woman who takes care of herself. I am extremely attracted to independent, career-minded women who have their own goals and ambitions. However, over and above everything I love girls that smile all the time and have a kind heart. These two things for me are really powerful aphrodisiacs.
I’ve spent the last nine years overseas and I must admit that it’s tougher than I thought it would be to meet girls in Sydney. I’m starting to get pretty sick and tired of meeting or trying to meet women in pubs and nightclubs. It’s just too impersonal and in my experience it has never led anything meaningful. Not just that but you set yourself up for some positively brutal knock backs.
So, that then begs the question, where does one meet girls if you’re a single guy?
Apart from parties, I’ve tried mixed sporting teams, the beach, supermarkets and even public transport. All have had varying degrees of success but so far there’s been nothing to write home about.
Like anything, being single has its pros and cons. I have no interest in having a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend. Of course I’d like to get to know someone really cool, but I’m a patient man and I’m not desperately trying to find that perfect woman.
I’ve always been rather cynical about internet dating – I guess I’m a bit old school and I’ve heard some horror stories about meeting people via some of the most popular dating sites. I’m a huge fan of Facebook but I simply use this as a medium to meet old friends and catch up with new ones. However, nothing ventured is nothing gained so here I am, baring my soul on the world wide web…
You never know until you try!
Charlie.
Tags: he says, relationships
February 20, 2008 at 4:44 am
I agree with you Charlie. Where do you meet normal, ok, semi normal with no freaky hangups kind of guys? I’ve tried sporting teams, the beach, the usual pub/club rubbish but seriously, I hate being in a place where you know that everyone is scoping everyone out like vultures and acting like everyone is competition. I have no problems with being on my own as I have a great group of friends and not enough hours in teh day to do everything I need to do, but it would be nice to share certain things with and I’m not just talking about what you imagine! The whole idea of internet dating almost sends me to the drink, who knows who is out there, although that works both ways ay. I just want to meet someone kind of normal who makes me laugh so much my belly hurts! is that too much to ask? That is the million dollar question.