Would you call a girl if she ‘put out’ on the first date?

Charlie I think that you are spot on with your previous response about the two-to three day window before calling after your first date. I rarely appreciate a call back the next day in the general sense. However, ironically, if you happen to ‘sleep over’ after that fateful night you previously described in a bar, then women really crave some contact. Perhaps this is mainly to dispel the worry we have that it was just all about the booty call, and they are not ‘into’ us – perhaps it’s because we are a bit emotionally committed.

Thus, girls the age old rule, you can’t put out. You just can’t.

I have been in this position. You agonize, watching the phone, try tuning it off; even calling it to make sure it is still working. And still it doesn’t ring… Conversely I have also had long term partners whom I slept with on the first date.

Answer this for me Chucky, would you call a girl back if she put out on the first date?

The aforementioned question receives a great deal of discussion from my girlfriends. My male friends say they don’t care, that regardless of first date behaviours if they are interested then there will be a follow up. I guess as long as the follow up is not at 3am on a Sunday morning it’s generally acceptable.

I think the whole male calling women is an old fashioned ideal we still cling to. I know that it seems dated, however girls still like to be courted. At least a little. I still expect my future husband to ask my father for his approval before he proposes, yet this is also dated, but quite common practice in the 21st century. 

Ladies come on, – tell me about your experience? Maybe it’s just me that does not get the call back, or even worse, maybe I am bad in bed!!

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